# Six scolding scripts you can use > Six worked telling-off scripts as full dialogue: domestic, summons, appraisal, interrogation, gentle and ninety seconds, with notes on how each one fails. - Canonical URL: https://consensualspanking.co.uk/scenes/scolding-scripts/ - Section: Scenes - Updated: November 2026 (2026-11-01) - Audience: consenting adults over 18 only. Everything on this site concerns consenting adults over 18. Almost everyone can picture the telling-off, then dries up the moment the room goes quiet. So here are six of them written out in full, deliberately in six different registers, because the register decides whether it lands. Take the shape and put it in your own words. --- ## In short - Everything here is between consenting adults over 18. Two of the six borrow the vocabulary of a formal office. - The theory, why the person has to speak, what disappointment does that anger cannot, and how it fails, is at [scolding](https://consensualspanking.co.uk/guide/scolding/). This page is only the dialogue. - Four moves carry a scolding: brought in, offence stated, confirmed aloud by the person, number announced. The rest is padding. - Read a script aloud once on your own before you use it. Pace does most of the work and the wording does very little. Everything on this page happens between consenting adults over 18. Two of the six borrow the vocabulary of a private office and a formal appraisal, because those are rooms most adults can picture without help. The reasoning sits at [scolding](https://consensualspanking.co.uk/guide/scolding/): why the person being told off has to do some of the talking, what disappointment does that anger does not, and the ways it fails. This page is only the dialogue, in six registers, with speakers marked Top and Bottom. They are shapes rather than lines to learn, and borrowed sentences sound borrowed. > **Before you use a real offence.** A scolding built on something genuine needs the ordinary conversation first, as yourselves, and nobody delivers one while still angry. If a telling-off is the only way a grievance ever gets aired in your house, that is a relationship problem in a scene costume, and the line is at [consent and coercive control](https://consensualspanking.co.uk/discipline/consent-and-coercive-control/). If any of this lands somewhere painful, Samaritans are on **116 123**, free, at any hour. ## The kitchen table A rule you both agreed to months ago, broken again, dealt with at the table with the washing up still in the sink. > Top: "Sit down a minute." > Bottom: "I know what this is." > Top: "Then say it." > Bottom: "I did not text you." > Top: "What time did you get in?" > Bottom: "Quarter past one." > Top: "And the rule is?" > Bottom: "Text if it is going to be later than eleven." > Top: "Whose rule is it?" > Bottom: "Mine." > Top: "You wrote it in January and asked me to hold you to it. Why?" > Bottom: "Because you sit up." > Top: "I sat up until half twelve and then I lay there. That is the only bit I want you to hear." > Bottom: "I am sorry." > Top: "I know. It is still six with the hairbrush, and then it is finished. Put the kettle on first." The hinge is "whose rule is it", because she supplies the answer and nobody has to impose anything. Where it goes wrong is the sentence about lying awake. Said once, it lands. Said three times it turns into a complaint, and you are in an argument with a spanking stuck on the end. ## The summons A summons given hours earlier, a wait outside the door, then standing on the rug while it is read out. > Top: "Come in. Shut the door. Stand on the rug." > Bottom: "Yes, sir." > Top: "You know what date I have written here?" > Bottom: "The eleventh." > Top: "On the eleventh you told me the report was finished. Was it?" > Bottom: "No, sir." > Top: "When did you finish it?" > Bottom: "Friday." > Top: "So for three days I believed something that was not true. I am less interested in the report than in those three days. Tell me why." > Bottom: "Because you made decisions thinking it was done." > Top: "Yes. Anything you want to put to me before I decide?" > Bottom: "No, sir." > Top: "Then it is eight with the cane. You will count them aloud. When it is over the matter is closed and I will not raise it again. Bend over the end of the desk." Every question has to be answered out loud, and "tell me why" does the work, because it makes her produce the reasoning rather than receive it. The failure is length. Once you have the admission there is nothing left to extract. ## The appraisal A folder open on the desk, second person throughout, and a tone with no temperature in it. > Top: "Sit down. Leave the chair where it is. This is your quarterly review. I will read it to you." > Bottom: "Right." > Top: "Objective one, punctuality. Late on nine occasions. Do you dispute the figure?" > Bottom: "No." > Top: "Objective two, accuracy. Six items returned for correction. Do you dispute the figure?" > Bottom: "No." > Top: "There is a free text box at the bottom. Do you want to know what I have put in it?" > Bottom: "Yes." > Top: "Shows no urgency about work that other people are waiting for. Is that unfair?" > Bottom: "No." > Top: "Read it back to me." > Bottom: "Shows no urgency about work that other people are waiting for." > Top: "Thank you. Sign underneath it and put today's date." > Bottom: "Here?" > Top: "There. Both objectives are recorded as unmet. Stand up, face the desk, hands flat on it. The measure is fifteen. You are reviewed again on the twelfth at nine." Nothing said in that is cruel. The humiliation is entirely in the register: the form, the signature, the second person, being made to read your own assessment back aloud. That makes it the riskiest of the six: the flat institutional tone can land much nearer a real bad afternoon than either of you intended. I would not use it on someone having a hard time at work. More at [the interview or appraisal scene](https://consensualspanking.co.uk/scenes/the-interview/). ## The interrogation The offence is known to both of you, and the top says almost nothing until she has told him all of it. > Top: "You know why you are in here." > Bottom: "Yes." > Top: (nothing) > Bottom: "It is about Thursday." > Top: (nothing) > Bottom: "I said I had cancelled the card and I had not." > Top: "Mm." > Bottom: "And I let you go on thinking I had. For eight days." > Top: (nothing) > Bottom: "Nine. It was the Wednesday before." > Top: "Anything else?" > Bottom: "I was going to tell you on Sunday, and then it got easier not to." > Top: (nothing) > Bottom: "I think it should be the strap." > Top: "It will be. Over the arm of the sofa." Silence does nearly all of it. With nothing to push against, most people keep talking and revise themselves upwards. It is also the danger, since somebody filling a silence hands you things you did not ask for and cannot un-hear. Agree the scope first, and if it turns into a real confession, drop the frame and be yourself. Long silences read as genuine anger, so a hand on her shoulder at the end settles a lot. ## The gentle one The same structure with the severity taken out, for people who want holding to something without being frightened. > Top: "Come here. Sit down. No, here, next to me." > Bottom: "Am I in trouble?" > Top: "A bit. Nothing frightening. Tell me about the appointment." > Bottom: "I did not go." > Top: "Did you ring them?" > Bottom: "No." > Top: "How long has it been now?" > Bottom: "March." > Top: "Since March. That is a long time to carry something round." > Bottom: "I know. I am sorry." > Top: "Sorry is easy. Honest is what I wanted, and you have just been honest. Are you warm enough?" > Bottom: "Yes." > Top: "Good. Over you go, then. Twelve, slowly, and you can talk while I do it if you like." > Bottom: "Will you still be cross after?" > Top: "I am not cross now. Come on." No severity anywhere in that, and it is unmistakably a telling-off, because the structure survives: she is asked, she answers aloud, a fixed consequence follows. Warmth is the harder register to hold. The failure is drift into a chat, and the warning sign is the moment you start explaining yourself. ## Ninety seconds in the hallway No summons and no room. She is on her way past with a mug in her hand. > Top: "Stop there." > Bottom: "What have I done?" > Top: "The washing has been in the machine since yesterday morning." > Bottom: "Oh. I forgot it." > Top: "Put the mug down. Hands on the worktop." > Bottom: "What, here?" > Top: "Here. Now." > Bottom: "All right." > Top: "Six, and then you hang it out before it starts to smell." > Bottom: "Six." > Top: "That is it. Off you go. Tea in ten minutes." It works because it interrupts an ordinary Tuesday and is over before either of you has changed gear. Where it fails is frequency. Four in a week and it stops being punctuation and becomes weather, and the next real one will not register. ## Adapting these Swap the offence and keep the shape. The order is what holds any of them up: the person is brought in, the thing is stated, they confirm it in their own voice, a number is announced, it happens, and somebody says out loud that it is finished. Use whatever your household actually calls things. Do not reorder those moves, though, because a number announced before the admission is a threat, and an admission with no number after it leaves the person hanging. Then read one aloud, on your own, in an empty room, before you ever use it. Most people skip that, and it separates a scolding that works from one that dies in its second minute. Almost all of the effect is pace: how long you leave a silence, whether you look up from the page, how flat you keep your voice, whether you let her finish. Reading it out shows you where you rush, and everybody rushes the same place, the gap after the admission. Wait there. Count to four. Vocabulary is a separate question, and which words you are prepared to use is worked through at [choosing the words for humiliation](https://consensualspanking.co.uk/guide/humiliation-words/). If a line feels stupid in your own mouth in a quiet kitchen, it will feel stupid in front of another person. Change it until it does not. ## Read next - [Scolding: how a telling-off actually works](https://consensualspanking.co.uk/guide/scolding/) - [Choosing the words for humiliation](https://consensualspanking.co.uk/guide/humiliation-words/) - [The apology](https://consensualspanking.co.uk/scenes/the-apology/) - [Smacked bottom or spanking: the words you share](https://consensualspanking.co.uk/guide/the-words-you-share/) ## Common questions ### What do you actually say when you tell someone off in a scene? Less than you expect. A workable telling-off between adults is four moves: the person is brought in, the specific thing is stated, they confirm it out loud in their own words, and a fixed number is announced. Everything else is padding, and the pauses between those moves carry more than any sentence in them. ### How long should a telling-off last before a spanking? Two or three minutes is usually plenty, and ninety seconds is a legitimate length. Long lectures are where the person delivering one runs out of material and starts improvising, which is audible and punctures the whole thing. Once you have the admission, stop asking questions and announce the number. ### Can you scold someone without any roleplay or costume? Yes, and for most couples that is the version that gets used. A rule you both agreed to, a quiet kitchen and a fixed consequence need no scenario at all. The formal frames exist because some people find a borrowed room easier to speak in. The plain version works just as well.